Thank you, thank you, thank you! I feel like I have been waiting for this exact post for the last 15 years.
This is so accurate, straightforward, and explained with an open heart. And I could easily give you 50 more examples to back it up.
This pattern and these results are far more common than not (by a very large margin), and are not limited to any one realm in neurodivergent young adults (and older)!
I think, as you said, it's the vulnerability of hygiene self care that makes this particular area become the hill to die on for our family members, friends, and clients.
I would add that *sometimes* there can be an added sensory component as well. In which case, *while* working on trust / respect there can also be collaboration on finding an individualized hygiene routine that works best for them.
And a HUGE amount of gratitude to you for taking the time to reach out and give this feedback. I am right there with you on the vulnerability part. It just can't be forgotten, for anyone. And for sure sensory comes into play. I love what you say with 'collaboration' as isn't that the key. Helps us figure out that individualised care. Thank you again for joining in this conversation as it sounds like you have so much to share.
This timing of this is serendipitous! I am struggling with hygiene and my 15yo PDA AuDHDer. I know that the loss of autonomy and trust from earlier years is definitely having an impact now. And I also know that my own experiences from childhood mean that hygiene is important to me. Knowing all of this doesn’t make it any easier and I frequently need my parenting consultant to listen to my frustration and grief. Thank you for writing about this topic and providing even more support!
I really appreciate the time you took to give this feedback and share your experience. I'm sorry to hear that your daughter had that experience in the early years setting. I think you bring up a good point on how our past can really impact if and how we can access self care.
Thank you, thank you, thank you! I feel like I have been waiting for this exact post for the last 15 years.
This is so accurate, straightforward, and explained with an open heart. And I could easily give you 50 more examples to back it up.
This pattern and these results are far more common than not (by a very large margin), and are not limited to any one realm in neurodivergent young adults (and older)!
I think, as you said, it's the vulnerability of hygiene self care that makes this particular area become the hill to die on for our family members, friends, and clients.
I would add that *sometimes* there can be an added sensory component as well. In which case, *while* working on trust / respect there can also be collaboration on finding an individualized hygiene routine that works best for them.
Again, our very deepest gratitude!
And a HUGE amount of gratitude to you for taking the time to reach out and give this feedback. I am right there with you on the vulnerability part. It just can't be forgotten, for anyone. And for sure sensory comes into play. I love what you say with 'collaboration' as isn't that the key. Helps us figure out that individualised care. Thank you again for joining in this conversation as it sounds like you have so much to share.
This timing of this is serendipitous! I am struggling with hygiene and my 15yo PDA AuDHDer. I know that the loss of autonomy and trust from earlier years is definitely having an impact now. And I also know that my own experiences from childhood mean that hygiene is important to me. Knowing all of this doesn’t make it any easier and I frequently need my parenting consultant to listen to my frustration and grief. Thank you for writing about this topic and providing even more support!
I really appreciate the time you took to give this feedback and share your experience. I'm sorry to hear that your daughter had that experience in the early years setting. I think you bring up a good point on how our past can really impact if and how we can access self care.